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Self-Development Over Self-Fulfillment

July 29, 2020

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Self-Development Over Self-Fulfillment

In the late sixties and early seventies, there was the “finding myself” movement.

It made sense to me, so I unofficially joined the ranks of those busy finding themselves. I remember wearing a patch on my blue jean jacket (because both blue jean jackets and patches were also popular during that time). It read, “Today is the first day of the rest of your life.”

That is self-fulfillment. It is about feeling good.

That statement really resonated with me then; but now, more than 42 years later, it takes on a whole new meaning. Having today be the first of many new days is only of value if I have grown because of my experiences yesterday.

Otherwise, it is about having to start over again and again on an endless quest to find happiness. Self-fulfillment and feeling good only go so far.

Self-development is different.

It is a higher calling to develop ourselves and move into our real potential. Why? So we can serve others and make a difference in the world.

Sometimes this mission, in and of itself, is fulfilling. But sometimes, it is just plain hard work, and the reward may not be as immediate. There may not be a uniform jean jacket and patches to show the world how enlightened you are. Self-development often happens, not in a movement, but in a quiet, determined moment at the end of a challenging journey.

No matter how it makes you feel, self-development always draws you closer to the fullness of your own potential. Where self-fulfillment is fleeting, self-development is a lasting investment in yourself that allows you to fulfill your true purpose.

This week, here is one thing you can do to move into a place of developing yourself and your performance to a much higher level.

Keep track of the times you want to cut corners or dumb-down your contribution because it “feels better,” makes you happy, or is just easier. Notice what you may be doing for recognition because it makes you feel good.

Remember, feeling good and doing good do not always match up. Seek out ways you can build a reputation of consistently doing great work.

For more resources on DISC assessments and how they can help you develop as a leader, click here.


As the CEO of Strength Leader Development, Deb Ingino is a highly sought-after international executive mentor, coach, trainer and speaker. Deb is well versed in global business operations and helps business leaders and their teams to discover and leverage their strengths, so they can create highly collaborative teams that deliver great results. With a refreshingly direct style, Deb helps leaders and their teams to deliver profitable results. Connect with Deb to learn more about her mentorship and coaching programs to equip you with advanced strategies to elevate your results.

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