Are You Stuck Or Growing?

October 5, 2012

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I'm Deb- CEO, worldwide executive coach, mentor, consultant and speaker. I'm here to help you take your leadership and impact to the next level!

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We all want life to be easy, to think there’s a point where we “arrive” and life reaches a nice, peaceful plateau.


The reality is, there are those wonderful plateaus, but they are simply resting places along the way. We don’t get to stay there forever.  The major part of life is spent in one of two realms:  STUCK or GROWING.  STUCK looks like prolonged unemployment, debt, indecision, stress, lack of energy, depression, lack of productivity, and a sense of lost purpose.  This is not a comfortable place to be at all. As my friend and mentor Paul Martinelli says,  “stuck stinks.”   GROWING, on the other hand, is energizing.  It is a place of positivity, excitement, productivity, and hope.


The good news is that you get to choose which realm you live in most.  I’m not saying we will never get STUCK (we all do at certain points in life), but I am saying you have a great deal of influence on how long you stay there.


Let’s just say you may have to visit,

but you don’t want to live

in a town called STUCK.



Thinking Too Much


Complicating the Matter

Kicking Yourself


These are the symptoms of STUCK.  They are rooted in perfectionism and fear.  You are overwhelmed by a situation and so you do…nothing.  Or you overthink and before long, the details bury you so deep you can’t possibly see a way out.


Here’s how to get out of STUCK and on your way to GROWING.  


Get Moving

Literally, get moving.  Take a walk in nature, go for a drive, run on a treadmill, or simply get off the couch and move to another room, another place.  There’s something about moving and changing scenery that makes a person’s mind shift gears.


Remove the Obstacles

The number of obstacles will vary, depending on how stuck you are.  But you just have to start with one.  Removing just one small obstacle in your path will begin to provide momentum.


Own the Process

You can’t wait around for someone else to solve your problems.  You have to own the process.  It’s called responsibility.


Walk With Winners

While it’s true that no one else will (or should) solve all your problems, you do need other people. You need a team of winners when you are stuck.  These need to be strong, successful, solutions-driven folks who will keep you thinking more in terms of solutions than problems.  Surround yourself with people who inspire you and encourage you.  This is not the time to spend time with naysayers and negative people.  In fact, I’m not so sure there is ever a good time for that.  And it’s certainly not the time to “go it alone”.  If you are stuck, immediately reach out to your winning team.  The sooner you do that, the sooner you start to grow again.


Implement a Plan

You might need some help with this one, someone to help you define a goal and begin to lay out simple to steps to get there.


Negotiate Steps

You have a team, a goal, and a plan of action.  What’s the next step?  You have to actually take the steps.  You have to act.  Take one step at a time, and you will be growing before you know it.


Get It Done!

This is what happens when you just begin.



If you find yourself a resident of the town of STUCK, contact us for support to get on your way to GROWING.  


  1. Deb, fun way to look at a real issue in life and business. I’ve been to and through the town of STUCK many times. My GPS has it set for HOME! Your post is well timed to the realities of so many people I meet in fear and uncertainty.

    Fear is the great paralyzer.

    Having spent many days in the area code of fear, I had the great fortune to partner with a business mentor who would change my perspective and give me the tools to move quicker through the intersections that keep us stuck.

    I think we should have a support group. Maybe it starts like, “Hi, my name is Dave and I’m an over thinker.” I would carefully examine every aspect of a project, believing this exhaustive preperation would reduce risk and ensure success. Sounds responsible, unless you take it to the extreme. Over thinking stops the natural flow of ideas and the healthy exchange of new thoughts and inspiration.

    My partner, Mike was the acknowledged vetran business man and innovator, liked to plan, yet also knew there became a time to act. he used to say “The ability to get things done is the rarest commodity in business.” He was right then as now.

    He taught me to train my intuition to know when the subject has been reviewed, discussed and detailed plans factored. Then act!

    Deb, thank you again for an entertaining and enlighting post. Always useful and enjoyable.

    • Deb Ingino says:

      Love it… a 12 step program for those of stuck in over thinking, flawed thinking or better yet no thinking! I know which one I’d quality for!

      Thanks so much for your comments and encouragement!

  2. Andy says:

    Handy acronyms here for very common problems. I particularly like the thinking too much part of STUCK as this is a great indicator of being stuck in a rut. When you can see clearly what you want to do, then you are on your way but if you keep jumping about you are still stuck. Simplifying is often the key way out of this.
    Great post! And great to connect on twitter.

    • Deb Ingino says:

      Thanks so much Andy, great connecting with you on twitter as well.

      The STUCK acronym is one that I have encountered in many situations and yes it is always that actions that breaks stuck!

      Thanks so much for your feedback!

  3. Ladyregena says:

    I’m stuck and not sure how which way is the best way to go but this was definitely motivating and hopefully the beginning!