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You walk around the neighborhood, passing people along the way. They are familiar faces, and you wave as you pass by each house. They may give a nod in return, acknowledging your presence as part of their day.

You stop for coffee, then go to work, passing people on your way into the building. You pass people going on the elevator, and you walk by co-workers and employees on the way to your office.

You know these people, and yet, you don’t, because you only know them in passing.

The Lost Art of Conversation

The art of good conversation has been lost because so many are just passing by.

In fact, in recent years, society has been conditioned to pass by.

• Stay home. Don’t go out.
• Stay busy. Keep moving.
• Stay safe. Don’t talk to others.
• Stay distant. Don’t get near.
• Stay quiet. Don’t say anything.

These necessary protections have their place. But if applied in every place, people can begin to feel isolated and alone.

And this has become a major challenge.

Whereas previous generations grew up having conversations as part of their normal, everyday life; younger generations find this to be a struggle because of this societal conditioning.

Reconnecting

Some are finding ways to connect again, in inventive ways.

• One of those ways is an “admin night” where a group of friends meet to collectively do some of the necessary but mundane chores of their everyday lives. As they do their work separately, they also forge friendships through the conversations that occur. They share stories, ideas, and tips to help each other.
• For others, it may be sports, where a roomful of people find common ground and conversation ensues.
• Some are drawn by common faith and values into a community that serves others, and friendships form naturally as they serve together.
• Others find common ground and develop connection around a shared hobby.
• In the workplace, conversations happen around projects, where people of different strengths work together to overcome challenges and accomplish a goal.
• In a neighborhood, a storm can bring people together, as they work to help each other with cleanup and shared resources.

Here’s the thing: stay safe, yes, always. But, also, take the time to cultivate meaningful connections. People are wired for connection.

Get beyond the platonic “hello” and “have a nice day” and learn more about the people around you as you work and serve together. You may be amazed at what you learn.

Being acknowledged is important; but being seen and heard creates culture and community.

Someone must start the conversation. Will you be that someone?

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Deb Ingino is a highly sought-after executive coach, mentor, consultant, and speaker worldwide. Deb is well versed in business operations and in the importance of asking key questions most business leaders won’t ask themselves. She brings deep experience in leadership development, strategy, high performance team building and effective communication. She has a passion for leading people to discover and maximize their strengths as well as those of fellow team members, while offering advanced strategies to achieve high performance. Deb is the perfect fit if you’re ready to take your leadership and impact to the next level!